February is often associated with romance and St. Valentine's Day.  What a great opportunity to bless and empower marriages. Your marriage blesses not only your union, but all those around you: your family, your friends, and the community. When we love each other, God lives in us and His love is perfected in us.  (1 John 4:12)  

Christ's visible sign of a tangible love, expressed in your marriage, has the power to bless others. Take time to reflect on the following questions today, repeating the process often.   

• How has your spouse's love been a gift?
• In what ways can your marriage be an intentional gift to each other?
• How can your martial love be an expansive gift to your children, family, and community?

When a husband and wife are in love and allow that love to be visible, everyone around them will experience God in a real, tangible way. As married couples, let us receive God's blessing to be a testament to Christ's love made real, tangible and visible in the world.  

In Real Life

When we look for the good in our spouses, we will surely find it.  Unfortunately, the reverse is easier to observe and always destructive. Realizing this has helped me focus on the gift of our marital love, even in times of conflict.  It's helpful to be reminded to always look for the good and seek peace.  (Psalm 34:14)

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Heavenly Father, we thank you for your tremendous gift of the Sacrament of Marriage. Bless every married couple to grow in their intimacy with you and each other. Teach them the beauty of forgiveness so they may become more and more one in heart, mind and body. Strengthen their communication with each other and help them become living signs of your love.  Bless them to be examples of commitment, love, and service.  With Mary and Joseph as our models and intercessors, we ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen

Marriage is a Blessing & A Gift

Every person experiences love and expresses it in a unique way. Too often, we instinctively give love the way we most like to receive it, but that may not be the way the other feels most loved. To be more effective in loving your spouse, you will want to learn how your spouse wants and needs to be loved, and more importantly, what makes them feel in love.
 
Perhaps your spouse's love language is words of affirmation or encouragement, or physical touch? Maybe it's quality time spent together, receiving gifts or thoughtfulness or acts of service. These frames of reference are adapted from Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages. When your spouse relates to you in your primary “love language”, you feel more connected, nurtured, and affirmed, hence more in love.
 
Discover your spouse’s love language and intentionally choose to love them in that way today. You will undoubtedly put a smile on their face and enrich your marriage.

In Real Life
My husband appreciates when I bring him a little gift of chocolate or something from the store, not so much because of the gift itself, but because I thought of him while I was running errands. In the same way, he makes sure to leave room in our weekend schedules for us to spend time together which is my preferred love language.

Learn how you can express your love in a way that will make your spouse feel loved.

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Understanding the Five Love Languages

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Prayers open us to relationship with God and to receive the grace we need to live fully alive in our marriage and family life. We certainly benefit from the prayers of others, but most profoundly, when we pray individually or as a couple for our own marriage. Start today, praying daily for a specific grace for your marriage. You’ll be surprised by what God will do. He is never outdone in generosity.

In Real Life
When we took on a Couple Prayer Challenge over 12 years ago, we weren't used to praying, as individuals or as a couple. As we started slowly, baby steps actually, we awkwardly prayed together, side by side, reciting the Our Father or Hail Mary out loud. Over time, we got more comfortable praying with our spouse listening. Soon, more spontaneous, conversational prayer naturally occurred.

It's truly a gift to hear your beloved praying to God for your needs and those of your marriage. Both our individual prayer life and our couple prayer life have grown exponentially.

Allow God into your marriage, to supercharge the ordinariness, foster joy, and shoulder the daily burdens.

Dive Deeper
Podcast: All Things Catholic with Dr. Edward Sri & his wife, Beth
Episode 226: The Most Important Conversation in Marriage
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Tips for Additional Ways to Pray
Couples that Pray Together

Build your relationship with a steady diet of affirmation with this simple daily exercise.  

At least once a day, tell each other one thing that you appreciate or find endearing about each other.  Affirmation is like a compliment but far more enriching.  You can think of an Affirmation as affirming your spouse's inherent and specific goodness, their virtue, and uniquely special qualities.  For example, a compliment might be, “thanks for taking out the trash” where an affirmation could be “I appreciate your service to me and our family.  Taking out the trash may be a small task, but it is reveals how you are a person of service.”   

Affirmation is an attitude and a posture of the heart that is focused on the other’s virtue.  Consistent, sincere affirmation conveys acceptability and lovableness, lifting us up, transforming and connecting both the recipient and affirmer.

What I appreciate about your today is …